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Together they raised three children—Michael, Lynn and Chris —who remained the center of her life. After graduating, Carol pursued graduate studies in psychology, driven not by a desire for authority but by a profound curiosity about the human mind. She spent many years working alongside a psychiatrist, listening to the stories of hospitalized patients and learning, as she often said, that “truth can be slippery, and people need encouragement more than anything else.”\n\nCarol believed deeply in the power of unexpected kindness. She never forgot the neighbor who quietly gave her a check to help her travel to Europe as a young woman—an act that shaped her understanding of generosity for the rest of her life.\n\nAfter her marriage ended, Carol embraced independence with grace and courage. She traveled widely—often internationally—seeking adventure, learning, and connection. She built a life defined by friendship, family, her beloved cat Sam, and the freedom to follow her own curiosity. She lived on her own terms, always.\n\nCarol never boasted of achievements, though she touched countless lives through her work as a therapist.  \n\nShe had a large presence in Ft Wayne Indiana where she lived most of her life.  Active in the early stages of the Women’s Bureau, local theatre, First Presbyterian church and many charitable boards. \n\nWhat she valued most was honesty—honesty with oneself, especially. She believed in facing life without illusion, in crying when needed, and in living fully even when life was difficult.\n\nShe is survived by her children, Michael Durham (Marie Durham), Lynn Durham (Dale Hedin), Chris Durham), her brother John Shanklin and two grandchildren Erin Durham, Alexis DeSpain, and by all those who were shaped by her kindness, her insight, and her quiet strength.\n\nCarol’s life was a testament to curiosity, independence, and the transformative power of being truly seen.\n\nShe leaves behind a legacy not of grand gestures, but of steady encouragement, thoughtful presence, and a life lived with open eyes and an open heart.\n"}},"city":"Durham","state":"North Carolina","deathdate":"2026-03-31","age":92,"image":{"localFile":{"publicURL":"/static/b338cab52f8be826641ec8dd46740ef6/object_Object_791a5f8c5b.jpeg"}}},"services":{"edges":[{"node":{"frontmatter":{"title":"Direct Cremation","slug":"cremation","path":"/services/cremation","icon":"icons/icon-urn.svg","price":"$1196.75","blurb":"Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. 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